I am German, too and, by my estimate, about 15 years younger than you guys. And I think my generation, the millenials, is the one who, here at least, has learned overtime to embrace sexuality and kinkyness and desire as healthy parts of themselves. For me it helped a lot to have even younger, Gen Z, friends to whom it is completely natural to be and show who they are. I don’t envy your generation for what you had to deal with and I very much respect your struggles.
yeah I think things have gotten better in some ways…I have an online friend who’s a millenial and she tells me she’s seeing a kink friendly therapist…there was nothing like that when I was young…when I went to a therapist in the 90s and tried to tell her about my spanking fetish she told me it was a mental illness…but I don’t think things have completely changed either…it’s one thing to like spanking as foreplay…but another thing entirely when it’s a lifestyle or includes other things like ageplay…
I have a friend that goes to a kink-friendly therapist, too, but I’m not sure I want to go to a therapist like that. Isn’t that strange that I’d feel uneasy about that kind of counselor? I feel like a hypocrite saying that, but it’s how I feel. It seems like many people are okay with sexual spanking, especially if it’s a few swats on the butt during sex, but people get very freaked out by discipline spanking. I imagine it is very, very hard for any woman admitting she wants to be spanked for discipline in this day and age, especially by a man… that is just anathema to most people. I work with quite a few young people (makes me feel old to say “young people”, but anyway) and when I first started talking to them about this I had the idea that finding someone that you’re compatible with would be so much easier today with all the dating sites and social media. I was wrong. They have set me straight about this, telling me that they can’t trust anyone’s profile, that people lie about what they want and who they are and it all gets very depressing. When Friday comes I ask some of the people that report to me what they have planned for the weekend, and so many of the guys stay home and play video games or binge watch TV. Some of these guys are handsome and make good money, and yet they don’t feel like going out. When I was that age I was at the club, or on a date every weekend. I think people can be more honest about their sexual desires and kinks today, but dating has gotten even more complicated.
Joanne
Hui….I don’t know if I could be in a long-term relationship where such a vital need of mine can’t find its place. That can’t have been easy.
rude.rumps@protonmail.com
yeah…he really tried to suppress it in his life 🙁
Joanne
I am German, too and, by my estimate, about 15 years younger than you guys. And I think my generation, the millenials, is the one who, here at least, has learned overtime to embrace sexuality and kinkyness and desire as healthy parts of themselves. For me it helped a lot to have even younger, Gen Z, friends to whom it is completely natural to be and show who they are. I don’t envy your generation for what you had to deal with and I very much respect your struggles.
rude.rumps@protonmail.com
yeah I think things have gotten better in some ways…I have an online friend who’s a millenial and she tells me she’s seeing a kink friendly therapist…there was nothing like that when I was young…when I went to a therapist in the 90s and tried to tell her about my spanking fetish she told me it was a mental illness…but I don’t think things have completely changed either…it’s one thing to like spanking as foreplay…but another thing entirely when it’s a lifestyle or includes other things like ageplay…
Ross
What seems like it should be easy is not always so simple.
Michael
I have a friend that goes to a kink-friendly therapist, too, but I’m not sure I want to go to a therapist like that. Isn’t that strange that I’d feel uneasy about that kind of counselor? I feel like a hypocrite saying that, but it’s how I feel. It seems like many people are okay with sexual spanking, especially if it’s a few swats on the butt during sex, but people get very freaked out by discipline spanking. I imagine it is very, very hard for any woman admitting she wants to be spanked for discipline in this day and age, especially by a man… that is just anathema to most people. I work with quite a few young people (makes me feel old to say “young people”, but anyway) and when I first started talking to them about this I had the idea that finding someone that you’re compatible with would be so much easier today with all the dating sites and social media. I was wrong. They have set me straight about this, telling me that they can’t trust anyone’s profile, that people lie about what they want and who they are and it all gets very depressing. When Friday comes I ask some of the people that report to me what they have planned for the weekend, and so many of the guys stay home and play video games or binge watch TV. Some of these guys are handsome and make good money, and yet they don’t feel like going out. When I was that age I was at the club, or on a date every weekend. I think people can be more honest about their sexual desires and kinks today, but dating has gotten even more complicated.
rude.rumps@protonmail.com
yeah I’m glad I’m not trying to date anymore…there were aspects to it that were exciting…but I always found it soooo stressful too…